Today we are starting a new series on the blog called the Tuesday Ten.
Basically, it’s about anything that is on my mind.
Who knows if this will be weekly, because LIFE.
But, let’s just focus on today.
Uno: I was headed to work last Wednesday morning when I realized that my car was missing from my apartment parking garage. Yes, it was stolen. Yes, the police found it.
After seeing it’s condition, I don’t want it back from the body shop.
Dos: I have been taking Coupe on long walks during the evening and let’s go over his breed. He is an English Lab. This basically means he is a short, stocky version of an American lab. Do people even do their dog breed research? There are french bulldogs and english bulldogs. So, there are english and american labs. Get it? Big difference. Oh, and if someone asks me if he is a basset hound mix again, I might just exercise my WWE Diva skills.
Tres: No matter how terrible you look, snap chat filters will make you look like you just came from a day at the salon.
Snap chat has your back.
Quattro: I became a Beachbody coach a couple of weeks ago and Shakeology is my life. It’s sooooooo good. I’m also kicking my own ass doing 21 day fix workouts.
Supplemental income is always nice.
Cinco: My current dating situation is lackluster. Please Lord, just send me a tall, sweet, “has his crap together” man who wants a commitment (meaning eventually wants to get married). I’m not talking tomorrow, either.
Seis: I just made an 8 month plan for work/apt lease/where the hell am I going next.
I’m super proud of it.
Siete: I will be 29 in exactly 6 months. I’m not sure if I’m excited or dreading that this is the last year of my 20’s. I mean, I was just in high school last week, right?
Ocho: No matter how old my mother gets, I learn that she never actually ages. This woman can drink me under the table, dance all night long, and run 12 miles on a Saturday because that is so much fun.
Nueve: After 10 years, my mac laptop bit the dust. I got a macbook air. Life is changed. I have the aston martin of laptops and I don’t know how I ever owned something that felt like 10 bricks on my lap.
Diez: I have had a cavity in my mouth for about 6 years and am rescheduling my appt that I have for today for sometime in the near future. What’s a couple more weeks?
Soooooooooo…I’m 28, so I have been “adulting” for some time now.
And I still struggle with it.
So, if this is you. No worries, I’m about to help y’all out.
But seriously…adulting is a constant thorn in my side.
I have days where I want to come home from work, kick off my heels, and just watch Netflix re-runs of The Hills, Full House, Gossip Girl, or One Tree Hill. That’s the kid in me.
That laundry can wait, right?
I have been so busy with work and life lately that whenever I start a new load of wash, I add them to my already dried clothes in the dryer and just dry them all together again.
Because why? Because I don’t want to fold anything.
P.S. that crap your mom told you about how your clothes would smell bad if you kept drying them is a myth. Throw 10,000 dryer sheets in there and you will smell like lavender rain all day.
A couple of months ago, I decided to drop my classes at my local university because I realized that I was in school not because I wanted to go back and get another degree, but because I was stuck in the “I have no idea what I want to do with my life” phase.
I have cycled through this phase a zillion times, but I feel now that I am on the right track.
Plus, I already have a bachelor’s degree soooooooo dropping college wasn’t a big deal.
Being a 28 year old college student surrounded by fresh out of high school 18 year old’s isn’t the life.
I decided I wanted to get my real estate license and become an agent.
Pass real estate exam: check
During that process, I started a new job working for a mortgage company as a relationship manager.
Now, all I have to do is get with a broker and ease myself into learning the market.
As I have gotten my life together, the future terrifies me less and less and excites me even more.
I look forward to what it holds, which is the unknown.
Currently, I am single and lately have been surrounded by friends that are either engaged, getting married, or having babies, or who are already married and on baby #2.
No pressure, right?
I still get asked by relatives if I am dating any new guys, or when I am getting married.
Luckily, I have learned to casually change the subject, unless I’m feeling extremely saucy that day and give them a taste of their own medicine.
No one prepped me for questions like that in college.
Oh, and once I became an adult, no one warned me that dating, cleaning house, paying bills, and raising a 80 lb. labrador retriever was going to be a complete beautiful, disorganized mess.
Soooooooo, allow me to share with you some of my tips for managing the stress that comes with being an adult.
#1. WRITE THINGS DOWN
This is pertaining to your bills. I don’t care if you keep a calendar on your phone, but take note of the day that your rent, cable, electricity, and other various necessities are due.
Set a reminder for them a week before.
Trust me, it will change your life.
I am not a planner type of person.
Planners are cute, but let’s be real, I’m not going to use one.
So, I use sticky notes and place them on my refrigerator because I am normally in the kitchen eating or cooking.
So, it’s a trusty reminder every time I open my freezer.
#2. CLEAN OUT YOUR “FRIENDS” LIST
Let me be clear here, people: Quality, not quantity is what we are looking for.
I had a good group of friends in high school.
I thought I would be friends with my best friend forever.
We always talked about how we would be each other’s maid of honor in our weddings and how we would go to college together.
Buuuuuut. Life happens and you are left with the realization of who your true friends are.
Ya, I ended up putting way too much effort into my friendships without my friends reciprocating the effort.
So, I stopped caring. I stopped making an effort.
Guess what? I’m still alive.
In fact, I have a few group of friends who I can count on for absolutely anything.
Yes, we may bicker and when my best friend asks me for advice, I may not tell her what she wants to hear.
However, I know that if I were in trouble or if it was the other way around, we could depend on each other.
So, get rid of those “friends” in your life that are taking up space in your phone book.
You will feel much better.
#3. MANAGE THAT CASH MONEY
I cannot stress this enough.
If you are in college, realize that you will have debt to pay.
No worries, don’t have an anxiety attack. Set up a loan payment plan after college and pay a little as you go.
You also need to learn the concept of savings. You don’t just get a paycheck and blow it on a brand new pair of shoes or a vacation.
Set some money aside in a savings account for each paycheck that you receive if you want to reward yourself in the future.
Lastly, think about building your credit score.
When I graduated college, I remember asking my mom what a credit score was.
Let’s just say…it’s freaking important.
If you pay your bills on time…your credit score will most likely be top notch.
In order to understand credit, check out Credit Card Insider. These people are the credit gurus.
#4. DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS
This will kill you.
You are your own person.
Who cares if high school Holly is married and has kids, or if your college bestie is the CEO of a fortune 500 company.
Everyone is different.
Everyone goes at their own pace.
You have different goals and are your own bad ass.
Plus, while you are comparing yourself to others, you are wasting valuable time achieving what you want.
Oh, and be reminded, there are people that would love to be you.
I know it’s crazy to think that, but people are comparing themselves to you.
My mom tells me this and I’m not sure if it’s just because she’s my mom.
But she’s right.
I just can’t see it. Or at least it was hard for me to see how cool I am in my past years.
#5. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
This is not the time to spend your life eating pizza and watching t.v. on the couch.
Well, except when you’ve had a long week at work and want to indulge on a Friday night.
But, you aren’t getting any younger.
Your health is important.
Schedule yearly doctor visits, start getting your ass to the gym, and eat healthy.
I love to cook and if you don’t, call someone who knows how and ask them if they can help you learn.
Invest in a good non-stick skillet and a baking sheet.
#6. GET ON A JET PLANE
Or take a road trip. You need to see the world.
You are young, vibrant, and the world is at your fingertips.
I’m still working on this.
I love taking mini weekend vacations to cities in my state where I adventure around town, eat at the best restaurants, and relax poolside at my hotel with a good book.
It is just what I need to get back on track.
My goal is to vacay to Greece next year.
Ya coming with me?
Be spontaneous, live outside your comfort zone, jump off of cliffs, go crazy…you will thank me later.
#7. KEEP LEARNING
Your mind is sooooooooo vast and deep.
There is tons of room for daily improvement.
I am constantly learning new things every day.
It keeps me on my toes.
Also, it’s important to be up to date on current events and what is happening in our world today.
Always use your voice to express your opinions.
Of course people will judge, but would you rather think like everyone else does?
Stick to your values and beliefs, they will carry you through.
#8. Get a pet.
Preferably, a dog.
Because I said so.
Because it is sooooooo much fun to come home to someone everyday who doesn’t judge you and just wants to take naps, go for long walks, and eat.
That’s loyalty my friends.
#9. DRINK COFFEE
It’s the only legal drug i can convince you to indulge in.
Drink it black or with sugar or with sugar and cream or with whipped cream.
However you want, really. Just caffeinate yourself.
You want to be cheery and well liked by your coworkers/friends etc. and be able to get crap done.
Therefore coffee is a necessity.
Alright, this is taking too much time out of my daily adulting routine.
If you need me, I will probably be folding laundry and watching Netflix…multi-tasking (add that to your list 🙂 )
I’m pretty sure I’ve mentioned this before buuuuuuuuuuuuut breakfast is my favorite meal of all time.
I’m pretty sure they invented brunch because they wanted to make eating breakfast at a later time acceptable.
But really…I’ve been accustomed to eating breakfast at any time of day since I was two years of age.
Soooooo…I am pretty excited that I get to share with you the latest event that I am sponsoring with the Houston Press.
It’s all about brunch, people.
Yes, the event is called The Morning After (sooooooo clever, right?).
It’s a brunch sampling event that will feature bites from local Houston brunch hot spots, alongside drink samples and music.
The event will take place on Saturday, October 1st from 11:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. at the Bayou City Pavilion.
Tickets go on sale Saturday, July 30th on ticketfly.com.
But guess what?
Because the Houston Press is awesome and I’m super special and you are amazing for reading my blog…they are offering you a pre-sale code to purchase tickets early starting today through Saturday, July 30th at 9 a.m.!
All you have to do is enter the promo code “MANGIA” when you purchase your tickets.
Buuuut guess what again?
I’m about to give you two general admission tickets to the event.
IT’S A GIVEAWAY!
To Enter the Giveaway:
Do one or all of the following (make sure to leave a comment for each thing that you do to increase your chances):
Follow @HPStreet on Twitter.
Follow @misschelsmangia on Twitter.
Tweet about the Giveaway: “I just entered to win two tickets from @misschelsmangia for The Morning After hosted by @HPStreet. Enter here to win http://mangiablog.com/2016/07/26/the-morning-after-a-houston-press-brunch-event-giveaway/!”
Leave a comment telling me your favorite brunch item.
This contest is open until Friday, July 29th at midnight.
I will announce the winner on Saturday, July 30th.
The past couple of months have been tough. Not the “trying to pass a final exam consisting of 60 + short answer questions written in a foreign language” tough, but the “can’t get out of bed, can’t sleep because my mind is restless with mixed emotions and uncertainty of the future, knock you on your ass” tough. I’ve got news for you. Life is going to continue. You are going to be okay. In the past few months, you’ve learned to let down your guard, step outside of your box, widen your circle of trust, give your heart freely and without question to someone who you believed was pretty damn special. Guess what? You forgot something. In falling in love with someone else, you subsequently fell out of love with yourself.
How did this happen? It started when you became someone’s other half. The relationship became toxic, so much so that you began sacrificing your self-worth and lying to yourself about the person that you were. Instead, you became this person that you thought someone wanted you to be. Pretty soon, your happiness became completely dependent on whether or not the other person was happy. Once the relationship ended, you lost your happiness because you didn’t know how to be happy without the other person. Here is the light at the end of the tunnel: things are going to be okay. They are going to be okay if you choose to let go. If you let go, you will get your happiness back and fall back in love with yourself. There is something else that needs to stop. Quit trying to figure out the reasons why your previous significant other ended the relationship. He may never tell you why he broke up with you and you cannot spend years analyzing the past. Why? Because the time is not in the past. The time is right now. This new life you are going to make for yourself will be far better. You have held on to the hurt for a long time and you will probably continue to hold on to it, but sooner than later, you will need to release the hurt. The energy that you are using to cling to the past is holding you back from moving forward. Your heart was broken, but now is the time to see the beauty in that brokenness. It’s time to allow your shattered heart to absorb this new light and embrace it, full throttle ahead.
The next thing you need to do is forgive. No matter what you have been through, you have to consider the other person in the equation. They may be going through something far more evil, fighting demons you never saw in the light. It is possible that he could have been madly in love with you as he expressed. But guess what? All that love has no purpose if he isn’t ready. Respect that and forgive him for the hurt. My dear, do not feel guilty about still being in love with him. Guess what? When someone enters your heart, you can’t snap your fingers and remove them from it as though they were never there. Don’t beat yourself up about still loving him. Just do it from afar. Most importantly, understand your self-worth. You need to understand what you are or are not willing to compromise on. Don’t abandon yourself just so that you can keep the relationship. Whatever you do, don’t think of this as a mistake. Think of it as a life lesson, as a teaching moment, which you gained strength from and grew wiser than you were before. Just think of all the pain, tears that you cried, curse words that you said. Guess what? They all helped you grieve and shape you into the person that you are today.
Also, listen up, if you love ALL of yourself, this means that you have to love the worst parts. Embrace your flaws and wrong doings. If you love your imperfections, someone will surely love them just as much as you do. Hey, hey you! Don’t forgot to dream big and use your talents to the best of your ability. Be hard on yourself. Don’t let yourself be a slacker and forget to chase what you love the most. Most importantly, don’t let this be a lesson that love doesn’t exist, because my darling, oh, it does. You must love harder, wider, deeper, and give fully of yourself. Let go and let love be your guide. Choose it, choose love, love you for you. Once you do that, someone will see it and life will take it’s course.